I find it ironic that it wasn't until I was away from my mother, with my own kids, that my appreciation for my mother substantially grew. Why is it that we tend to appreciate people (and things) only when they are removed? Having four kids this Mother's Day to celebrate has been a bit surreal. Some days I wake up and am awed that I even HAVE kids. It's a slow process, yet simultaneously passes far too quickly. Claudette was bathing Azure in the sink the other day, and as the water was running, Azure's little hands tried to grab and hold that stream of water. She was enjoying the water so much and wanted to hold that enticing wet ribbon in her hands, grabbing at it faster and faster. I feel this is my life sometimes. It just keeps coming, no matter how I try to stop it and hold it still for the briefest moment. With each day I am able to be with my family, I recollect all those moments, noticed and not, when my mother sacrificed for everyone else. Sometimes it was her portion of dessert, and sometimes it was her alone time, interrupted by the need of this child or that. I, all too often, resist that charitable quality that seems to come to my mom so naturally. She never made it seem like a sacrifice at all, but treated it as a time to enjoy her children. Thank you, mom.
Being married, I now have another mom, with whom we've had visiting us to help with our move. We wore her to the bone, but reveled in having her with us to share her wisdom, her humor, and her hands. She truly cares for me as her own. I hear many "horror" stories of mothers-in-law with which I can in no way relate. I enjoy her company--we were able to go out one evening shopping, just the two of us--and had a marvelous time. I value her opinion and know she is honest with me. She raised a son who helps with dinner, dishes, bathing, diapering, cleaning, well, he pretty much helps with everything. She did an amazing job instilling in him qualities that have made him such a wonderful father and husband--really, the ultimate goal of raising a child--the least I could do is provide some granddaughters, right? Thank you for my husband. I love you.