That first born is a taxing position to bolster, especially when she was booted from "the baby" position at a mere 18 months. We've often said she has only-child-wannabe-syndrome. We say it half jokingly, because she truly needs more attention than any other of our children. We've prayed about it, fasted, seen "people", and most importantly felt we have known the answer to the behavior we've been so heartbroken to see come from our child. After taking away every thing we could think of, both physical and privilege, we decided to go the other direction of the spectrum. Let's give her more. More attention, more conversation, more of us. More of her momma. Wednesday after I put the other 4 to bed, we have Divine Time. She chooses what we do. She has blossomed. She is kinder, she tries harder, and she feels important and loved. Last night she chose to play a game with me: Mikado, aka pick-up sticks, though I prefer to call it Mikado, it sounds much more exciting and refined. She's a tough match, as she's inherited her mom's steady hand.